THE COVID-19 MESS: FAMILY LIFE CHANGES
All through history, from Biblical times to this date, there have been diseases which have had its negative effects. Epidemics and pandemics will come and go until Christ returns. There will be diseases which will disrupt daily life and may lead to the destruction of many lives. What determines your peace and your eternal destination is the faith you live out before the God of heaven and earth, your personal relationship with Jesus Christ and your sensitivity to the Holy Spirit of Christ.
The COVID-19 pandemic has impacted family life in unquantifiable terms, each one experience is unique. The School closure and lockdown have caused many families to change the way they live their daily lives. This pandemic has also affected Churches to close their fellowship and meetings and only operate online while most small businesses have shut down and some skill employees work online from home. Most workers are out of job and going through financial hardship. Churches with small membership strengths are finding it hard to pay their bills and are asking members some of whom are jobless to pay their tithes and send offerings online. On the same vein small businesses are passing through difficult time meeting their obligations and most of them are shut down. For some pupils it was hard to imagine that it would come to school closures for almost 3 months, not being able to visit and see friends, play games and constant worry having no idea what will happen next. As we go through these crises, we need to make sure those who are food insecure or facing urgent health care needs are getting access to meals and services. Communities in advanced world should help those in rural areas alleviate the problem created by shutdown by providing food items. And we need to ensure everyone is taking the time to exercise, get outdoors safely and connect by calling, texting and using social media tools. As we pass through crises, many things have change except one, powers in the name of Jesus.
The COVID-19 pandemic has impacted many a romantic relationship, says Professor Katherine M. Hertlein, UNLV Couple and Family Therapy. She added, “Just like every other part of life, the mechanics of romance have changed. Newly dating partners are longing for one another after weeks apart due to the quarantine; longtime cohabitating and married couples are spending more time together than ever, deepening bonds for many while some could use a breather from seeing their (not so) loved one’s face. And the pandemic has added a new wrinkle for divorced or separated parents who share custody of their children. The common thing with all these facets of a relationship is that the corona virus lockdown has ushered in an underwriting of grief for many due to the dramatic change to our daily lives. Meanwhile, our coping mechanisms — hanging out with friends, shopping at the mall, exercising at the gym — have been ripped away from us. For some people, that means disturbances in sleep, while for others it might mean engaging in avoidance behaviors, difficulty concentrating, or depression. All of these things can lead to conflict in a relationship. Another thing is that a changed routine might impact a couple’s sex life. When the kids are constantly around and things are generally more stressful, it can have an impact on decision making and time spent together as a couple. And when the couple is together, they might experience lots of pressure to have a satisfying experience, which naturally inhibits the satisfactory experience.
Lisa Adelson of UNICEF said, “Self-isolation has driven more and more children to move online during the COVID-19 pandemic, leading to an unprecedented rise in screen time and raising safety risks for millions of young people. As we tackle #COVID19, many children’s worlds have shrunk to just their screens. This leaves them vulnerable to online sexual exploitation, grooming, violence and bullying. “School closures and strict containment measures mean more and more families are relying on technology and digital solutions to keep children learning, entertained and connected to the outside world, but not all children have the necessary knowledge, skills and resources to keep themselves safe online”, said Howard Taylor, Executive Director of the Global Partnership.
Since lockdown, there has been overflowing with information call them advice on how to cope with our new lived reality of COVID-19. It is believed that all is well intended, a great deal is informative and helpful, while others are considered as media sentiments based on trials and errors. Notwithstanding, some few others are outputs of scientific trials. Despite all the expert advices, we have noted the basic things to do: that maintaining simple hygiene of washing hands, covering our nose and mouth whether we cough, sneeze or yawn and social distancing are of crucial necessities. Hand washing is one of the simplest and most effective disease prevention methods available. However over time with some curiosity through trial and error, persistence and patience, we figure out what works best for each family, that in fact we have become experts of our lives. We have tried drinking boiled garlic, ginger and saint leaf, etc together with bitter leaves. Different couples find out what works for them differently. Communities and government must do everything to contain the Corona virus by delivering hygiene and hand washing programs around the world.
According to, an Occupational Therapist & College Lecturer at University College Cork reflecting on family life in the midst of a global pandemic, “I am not able to work full-time. I am working to the maximum extent possible. For me this means adjusting my expectations for what is doable. I’m finding most work tasks taking much longer than I anticipated, because my concentration is reduced, I don’t have a designated work space and working fully online is new to me. I’m prioritizing maintaining connections with my students. I’m certainly not getting to progress my own research at this time. And I am definitely not painting skirting boards or clearing out the attic.” She added, “When the week goes mostly according to plan, then we have “fun Fridays” which can mean pyjamas all day, relaxed screen time rules, Rice Krispies for breakfast (and lunch), pizza on the couch for tea. These are extraordinary times and it is not business as usual. We are all just doing our best to get through, day by day. If ever there was a time to keep the goal of “good enough” in focus, that time is now.”
According to MIRIAM FOLEY on How My Country’s Lockdown Brought Me Even Closer to My Family, “But I do have one comfort: At a time when I don’t have control over anything and the situation is scary, unclear, and uncertain, I am at home with my partner and babies. I’m lucky enough to be where I need to be, with the people I need to be with. We’re indoors, staying healthy, and doing our bit not to propagate the virus, and that’s the best we can do right now.” She went further, “This surreal situation has been an invitation — albeit legally enforced — to do what I’ve needed to do for a long time: slow down. With literally nowhere to go — no social events, no work obligations, no storytelling sessions or play dates — I’ve had no choice but to stop and reflect. The situation has turned into a lesson on being in the present. Over the last few days, I’ve sat and watched my 3-year-old and 9-month-old play. Not while I did household chores like making the dinner or hanging out the washing. I just sat and observed them. It was beautiful and a little emotional.”
Amid the pandemic, some churches ignoring stay-at-home orders claim that the power in the name of Jesus is enough to protect their members from deadly illness. According to Jelisa Castrodale, freelance writer, “The first death of Covid -19 actually happened 2000 years ago. The Bible tells us that Jesus took on every sin, sickness and every disease…Jesus bore it so you wouldn’t have to. Salvation provided forgiveness and healing…if you’ll believe it, you can receive it!” The Awaken Church is still going ahead with its regular schedule, despite the state’s guidelines advising against gatherings of more than 10 people. “For us to not have services due to a virus would be for us to go against our extremely strong convictions of the power of God to protect and the power of God to heal,” the church wrote in a Face book post last week. “Jesus knew the world He was sending us into contained sickness and disease. Instead of telling us to retreat from sickness, He told us to go into the world and to heal the sick.” (The church has also increased spacing between groups within the church, discouraged the elderly and immuno-compromised from attending in person, and offered hand sanitizer to all visitors.)
Then Jesus came to His disciples and said, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to Me” (Matthew 28:18). Jesus prayed to the Father, “I will no longer be in the world, but they are in the world, and I am coming to You. Holy Father, protect them by Your name, the name You gave Me, so that they may be one as We are one. While I was with them, I protected and preserved them by Your name, the name You gave Me. Not one of them has been lost, except the son of destruction, so that the Scripture would be fulfilled” (John 17:11-12). Apostle Paul writes, “8 And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. 9 Therefore God has highly exalted him and bestowed on him the name that is above every name, 10 so that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, 11 and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.(Phil 2:8-11).“For the message of the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God.” (1 Corinthians 1:18) Jesus was “delivered up according to the definite plan and foreknowledge of God” (Acts 2:23), and “he was delivered over to death for our sins and was raised to life for our justification” (Romans 4:25). The victory that Christ won over sin has given us greater blessings than those which sin had taken from us: “where sin increased, grace abounded all the more [Romans 5:20].”
“All through history, from Biblical times to this date, there have been diseases which have had its negative effects. Epidemics and pandemics will come and go until Christ returns. There will be diseases which will disrupt daily life and may lead to the destruction of many lives. What determines your peace and your eternal destination is the faith you live out before the God of heaven and earth, your personal relationship with Jesus Christ and your sensitivity to the Holy Spirit of Christ. God is the one to look to when living through an epidemic or pandemic. He rules over all, He is the only true God who is above all, having the power to control and guide the government in all the decisions needing to be made as well as implementing the plans which have been set in place. He is all-sufficient, able to provide everything needed to come up with a treatment, strengthen caregivers and those afflicted. He is able to give wisdom to the medical field, businesses affected, to all whose lives have been disrupted or displaced. He promises wisdom to all who ask. (James 1:5) says Pat Gohn, the editorial coordinator for Catholic Digest and Today’s Catholic Teacher. An author, she is also the editor of Catechist magazine.